Breaking the habit!
Does this sound familiar?
You've just woken up after an 8-10-hour sleep, you roll out of bed and make your way towards the kitchen to reluctantly force down food, just like the health professionals have told you to do. After this albeit unwanted but important meal, the first thing you want to do afterwards is go back to sleep.
How can this be, you've just slept for over 8 hours, your body is fully rested and ready to begin the day.
But wait, what is there to look forward to in this day? A stressful job, annoying co-workers who don't pull their weight and no real progression at the end of it. Not to mention the drive to work amongst the other rats in the race, negotiating yourself through traffic jams and roadworks. Maybe it would be better to stay in bed all day.
But then again, just think about all that time being wasted and the thought of looking back in a few years wondering where your time has gone. If you think time will wait, think again, the time is now, it'll wait for no man or woman.
This all may seem a little obvious and easier said than done but if you think back, you were not always like this. You used to be full of energy, not a care in the world and took things as they came.
So, what changed? Becoming a grown-up! Adults always said your school days will be the best of your life and I'm sure we all had the same opinion of "yeah right" but once we make it into the big wide world, things become apparent. The stresses of money, love lives, and work hit home and begin to entwine themselves around you, creating the anxious ball of stress you are today.
However, if you have been stress-free before, you can be again, or close to it. The things around you will not change but the way you approach them can.
With some focus on you and your goals, it will help blinker you to the idiotic and confusing actions of others and put enthesis on the most important things in your life.
Start by putting things in order of importance. So, for example;
By concentrating on the fundamentals, you should be able to push the stress to bottom of the pile and reduce the amount of time worrying about things which won't have a positive bearing on your life. Instead, put your energy into the things you enjoy and with your new-found positivity comes extra opportunity.
Positive attitudes attract positivity and the same goes for negativity. The more negative you are, the more negativity you will attract.
As you might've already worked out, we are not batteries so don't need to be a negative to attract a positive. This is a circuit we need to break.
Don't get me wrong, like any change, it will take time to reprogram your mind to become more relaxed and forward thinking but with the right plans in place, you will become ever closer each day.
So how is this possible I hear you ask out of desperation to change from the tortuous thought patterns which plague your mind on a daily basis. The answer is, there is no one answer for each individual, it has to be your journey, but there are however techniques I've used which have been successful and always end with a positive outcome.
I have always found goal setting to give me a path to follow and a target to aim for but then again, this may not suit over-thinkers. If you can create small manageable hurdles which can be easily overcome, it will create a snowball of positive energy driving you forward to great possibilities, but they do have to be small goals to begin with.
My experience shows that big goals can be disastrous towards becoming less stressed and anxious. Due to my willingness to succeed and never-ending thought processes, my brain will not rest until the task at hand is completed. Even if everyone else around me is neglected whilst I finish the monstrous missions I have set myself.
Now, I work exclusively on one project at a time and make sure it is checked off before starting another. This can help with not getting overwhelmed and bogged down with too many "things to do" on your never-ending list of must do's.
At the end of the day, you are just one person and if they're not life threatening, menial tasks can wait. Your health and wellbeing come before anything because without it, you won't be able to do anything.
The healthier (both physically and mentally) you are, the better you will perform, the easier your tasks will become and the more you will get done.
I know it looks easy on paper but why do we still feel like this when it can be so straight forward?
Sometimes you need it laid out in front of you to see your path. Without it, it’s like trying to find your way in the dark, which is much less productive and takes longer to find the things you're looking for.
Try setting your first little goal today and use it to light the path on your journey to a better you.